1. Weddings are expensive. Like crazy expensive. The word wedding is the industy’s cue to up their price points! How do you combat this? A budget is a good place to start. Listing every single expense that you can think of for the wedding, and the estimated cost beside it in an excel sheet, will quickly give you an idea of how things add up. The easiest way to lower costs is to lower the number of guests, because venue costs are based on a per person charge and so more people = more money. Of course that has its own challenges to sell family on inviting less guests but it’s definitely my # 1 reccomendation to keep costs down! The second, which I’ve talked about how in retrospect I would have done, is doing a two day event: 1 mehndi and 1 shaadi/reception combined, with costs split down the middle. Again, the idea may not be loved by our parent’s generation, but I think the next generation of weddings are going to do this more and more!
2. There will be some things that you can’t control. And trust me, I tried. With my type A, detail oriented, neurotic personality, I planned for everything on my shaadi day, but despite my best efforts, there were things I couldn’t control: namely the imam going on a rant (grr) and people talking during speeches (the worst). What I was terrible at, but will advise you to try to do, is that if things aren’t going as you had imagined – smile. SMs fam gave him this advice beforehand and many of our pictures tell me I would have benefited from hearing this too lol. It’s way easier said than done, but remembr that when something is happening that you don’t like on your big day, looking upset is only going to be captured in the photographs forever!
3. Afterwards, try to let any imperfections go. I put a lot of time, thought, effort any energy into planning MBFPW and so the things that did go wrong bothered me for quite a while. (It’s been over a year and the thought of our imam still irks me!). But the advice I’d give you, and myself, is that you have to take a deep breath and let it go. My momma said it best when I was sulking about the things that bothered me: “Your shadi was beautiful, don’t worry about what didn’t happen, look to the future with your handsome husband. Be always happy. Mashallah you have lovely family.”