Pink Banarsi Sari for a Saturday Shaadi

Hello Friends!

1 wedding down and only 1 just one left to go before SM and I are done with our summer wedding circuit! #NowWhatDoWeDoOnWeekends?

At the shaadi on Saturday, I wore one of my jahez outfits that I got from Lahore (I think in a shop in Cavalry Ground) – a beautiful, light pink banarsi sari.

I styled it with a low bun, and the full gold set that I wore on my wedding (which was mum’s!).

I had the sari pleats pre-stitched (because my god how hard is it to tie a sari yourself!?) at Sonu Sari Palace on Gerrard Street. Ladies in Toronto, Seema at Sonu Sari Palace is the best!

I absolutely love the way saris look – there is nothing more elegant or classic in my opinion!

Btw, ladies, when you were growing up were you allowed to wear saris? We were always told that saris were for married women, and ‘shaadi kay baad’ we could wear them! (Of course, I didn’t actually listen – rebel me! – but I wonder if this is still a thing!?)

Pink Banarsi Sari

Sari – Lahore (maybe Moon Banarsi) in Cavalry Grounds

Shoes – Michael Kors


The Radford Salon: Toronto-based Hair & Makeup

If you’ve followed my blog from the start, you’ll know that I went on quite the journey to find a make-up artist for my big day! I started off by booking the renowned Toronto-based MUA Shirley Wu…only to realize a month before my wedding that I didn’t actually love her style, and then scrambled to find a make-up artist for my wedding. (You can read the full story and reviews of all of the MUAs I tried out for my wedding here).

I didn’t try a non-desi hair & MUA for my wedding make-up trials because I think you really need to have someone who understands the tricky dupatta-setting-on-hair part of our shaadi look, but for my friend’s recent wedding, I had my make up done at Radford, an upscale ($$$) salon in Yorkville. I just went back and had my hair cut by stylist Danae Selwood and coloured by Niki, and then went back again for my 30th birthday to have my hair styled by Danae and my makeup done by Emma Hewit.

I really liked Emma’s make up on me – she kept it really light (I hate heavy, heavy makeup!) and I really liked the shape of the lashes.

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And this was the hair that Danae styled, BEFORE, I got super sweaty from dancing lots haha. I told her I wanted big, big hair, and to basically make me look like Beyonce haha.

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If you feel like treating yourself (because they are pricey) or have a special occasion, I would definitely recommend going to Radford. The girls there are super sweet, and I definitely walked out feeling pretty (which is why you pay someone to do your hair and m makeup, right?!).

Toronto girls, what other hair and MUAs do you recommend – for bridal and non-bridal looks?

A Monday Night Valima

Hi Friends!

So, after a full wedding weekend in Washington, DC  – which btw, was one of the most gorgeous weddings I’ve attended thus far – I flew back to Toronto on Sunday night only to attend a Valima on Monday night! You know, as you do, lol. Plus, I have three more events in this week alone (when SM warned me that he had a big family, he was not lying!)

I wore one of my jahez (bridal trousseau) outfits to yesterday’s event that I had made when I was wedding shopping in the PK in 2013. It’s from Liberty and apparently a “Karma copy” as the Liberty store merchant proudly told me haha. Tbh, I don’t care what the brand name / label is, as long as the price is right and I like the way it looks.  In the liberty shops you can buy outfits like this as material with the kaam (work) already done on them, and then have it stitched by your tailor.

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Outfit – from Liberty Market, Lahore, Pakistan

Shoes – Michael Kors via the Bay

Purse – Gift from my MIL

Jewelry – my Valima set!

And so it begins!

In Canada, there is a saying: “it’s either winter, or construction.” While that is very true, so is this: in Canada, it’s either winter, or shaadi season.

Over the next eleven days, I have eight wedding events to attend. Nine including the event that I attended last week. Which of course leads directly to the: “what do I wear!?” dilemma!

I’m coming up to my three year wedding anniversary in August (how time flies!) and I still feel like I have some joras (outfits) from my wedding trousseau (aka jahez + bari) that I’ve only worn once or twice, or not at all. I’m definitely not one of those only-wear-an-outfit- once kinda girls, rather; I’m more of the ‘passay pura karni hai!’ mindset haha. (Translation: get your money’s worth!). That said, planning for all of these consecutive wedding events has been quite the challenge (also, because I’m still working on losing all of that post-shaadi weight, of which there were 40, yes, 40 lbs gained in total. I know, I know. I’ve lost half, but wow, has it ever been a struggle – that’s a whole other post.)

Anyway, this is what I wore recently to a friend’s mayoun (the traditional pre-wedding event), it was an outfit that my MIL brought back from Duabi or Pakistan last year. I felt like it was festive, but not too much, which by the way, I think is a thing – that girls in North America get way more dressed up for shaadi events than girls in Pakistan (Agree or disagree?) Don’t get me wrong, I like (tasteful) bling, but time and place, people!

How do you guys manage all of the outfits needed in shaadi season? And what are your go to places to shop, especially online?

P.S. I used the Miracurl to curl my hair – this is one device that is totally worth the $!

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Kurta – A shop in Dubai

Leggings – Nisha Linen / Nisha – Gerrard Street

Sandals – Anarkali Bazaar, Lahore

Choorian (Bangles)– Liberty, Lahore






You guys! The western world just figured out one of our oldest beauty secrets: haldi (tumeric)! “12 Beauty Reasons You Need Turmeric in Your Kitchen, STAT” popped up on my Facebook feed the other day, and all I could think was “arrey! This is our ubtan!”

Ubtan is that haldi (tumeric)-based paste that gets smeared all over the bride during pre-wedding festivities for a more radiant complexion. Side note: calling out the internalized racism in our culture here – its also said to make you fairer. To which I say: fairer is not lovelier. Also, I don’t even think that’s true, if anything haldi stains yellowish?

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Because my skin is annoyingly sensitive, on my mayoun, my mom mixed a tiny amount of haldi into my trusty Nivea cream (the face moisturizer that I swear by) to get the ubtan effect so that we could keep the tradition, without risking any potential skin reaction. Still, I was too scared to put it on my face because I just didn’t want to take the risk! Ladies, what do you think about our miracle haldi ingredient as part of the beauty routine?


FAQ: Should I Hire Different Photographers for Different Days of my Wedding?

Hello everyone! Happy New Year! I can’t believe its 2016! 2016 Brides: are you freaking out yet?! *Breath* Lol.

So! This post is the first of my FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions) because lately, this is one that I seem to get often: “Should I hire different photographers for different days?”

I can totally appreciate how so many brides find themselves in this predicament – our weddings are three days, sometimes more, and long weekends are usually prime real estate for the functions. Meaning, wedding photographers get booked, and fast. (Future brides: let that be a lesson to you – lock the photographer down early!)

I myself was never faced with this issue: we used Mir Anwar Photography  for all three of our days + engagement shoot! Would I have wanted different photographers for each day? To be honest, probably not. Although we actually haven’t made our wedding album yet (I know, I know! It’s been 2 years!) when we do, I plan on creating it so that it starts with the mehndi photographs, which flow into the shaadi photographs which then conclude with the valima photographs. I know some people see each event as a separate thing on its own, but to me, when I think about the wedding, especially after time has passed, it’s just one big blur peppered with very special moments. The joy of the mehndi, captured by our friends’ and families’ dance moves, and our elated reactions; the moment my brother walked me down the aisle on the shaadi; making dua (saying a prayer) with my new husband next to me after our nikah; walking in together as Mr. and Mrs. on our valima… to me, none of this is separate, this was all our wedding – indeed, our big, fat, Pakistani wedding. Every photographer has their own style and to have the same style reflected throughout each of our days, especially together in one album, will aesthetically, simply flow. For example, I felt like Mir’s style was softer and whimsical (what I wanted) whereas some photographers’ books were much sharper /  editorial . The contrast of those two types of styles in one album could look jarring.

And, now for the counter argument: one of my biggest regrets from our wedding is not having a second shooter. We didn’t realize that this would even be necessary – it was only after the fact that when we were looking through pictures, we wished we had pictures of some other moments – but that would have been impossible because one photog can only be in one place! So, if you have a wedding where you hire a photographer and they bring with them a second (or third, or four shooter) then, how is their view/lens any different than hiring a different photographer all together for a different event? And that diversity of lenses – artists seeing and capturing things in different ways  – would probably make for a variety of interesting and great pictures!

Ultimately, if I was in that pickle – I had the photographer that I wanted for all but one days – and really needed to go with someone else for the event outstanding, I would just do it *as long as I liked them, their work, and their prices points as much as the first.*  Ultimately, then, you will  receive good photographs capturing the special moments of your wedding – and in the end, that’s all you’re going to want.

Good luck! And for anyone that did have this experience, share your thoughts below!






Designer Spotlight: Faraz Manan, A/W 2015 Imperial Collection

Ladies. I’ve discovered a designer, and I think I’m in love. His name is Faraz Manan. He’s based out of Lahore, and has recently expanded to Dubai as well. I didn’t know about him when I did the shopping trip in 2013, but if I did, I definitely would have paid him a visit!

These are the photographs from his Autumn/Winter 2015 collection titled ‘Imperial’ that had me drooling.


To me, this collection is the perfect marriage of glamour and elegance, with the gold embodying a timeless luxury. Love, love, love!

(Photo credits: Faraz Manan ‘Rouge’ Facebook Page and The Express Tribune, ‘Crafting a New Way Forward.’)