Mona’s Beauty Bag

Hi guys!

Long time! Well, a great way to break my blogging hamoshi (silence) is by introducing you to my fellow blogger Mona and her fun blog, Mona’s Beauty Bag! Mona’s been obsessed with beauty products since forever, and for those brides shopping for their jahez (bridal trousseau) what could be better than checking out some real girl product reviews?! Mona interviews girls and asks them one key question: “what’s in your beauty bag?” Recently, she featured me in her blog and I dished about the products that I can’t live without! (Shout out Vichy concealer and Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer!) You can read more here:

http://monasbeautybag.com

What are your favourite beauty products?!

– Safa

How to Choose a Wedding Venue!

Hi Guys,

I thought I would share an article that I wrote for Suhaag magazine (published in October 2011) about how to choose a wedding venue. The article was inspired by my own frustrations in trying to find a wedding venue (balancing cost, capacity, and venue uniqueness). I’m republishing it below; hope those in the preliminary stages of wedding planning find it helpful!
– Safa

How to decide on a perfect venue

Booking the venue. It’s the first thing you want to do after flaunting your rock to everyone and their mom. And as I’m finding out, it’s easier said than done. (The venue search that is; showing off the rock is under control!).
A desi shaadi brings its own unique set of considerations which makes finding the perfect venue so challenging.  These considerations – venue style (ideally unique); capacity (most likely large); food (preferably desi); and cost (lower the better) — become very connected.

Venue Woes

After some initial research, you realize that most of the unique, non-desi wedding venues have a capacity for less than 250, which would be fine… if you decided to not invite half your family. Where capacity isn’t an issue, food might be. You’ll either have to choose from a caterer who is on the venue’s ‘preferred supplier’ list, or their in-house catering. The menu prices for these packages can range from $75-$250, which for the desi shaadi is high, especially if you’re dealing with a large guest list. As an alternative, some venues may allow outside catering, which is great because you can bring in your own community’s caterer (read: desis want desi food). However, while you may be saving on the food costs, many places will charge you a base rental fee or a per person ‘service’ charge (which can range from $20-80), as well as other fees such as, per person bar charge, security fee, SOCAN charge, etc. etc. etc.

Wedding Planner to Bride

So how does one navigate these nuptial terrains? Suhaag sought the expertise of Raana Chaudhry, a woman who has planned not one, but 251 weddings (including her own), as a Wedding Planner with her company Sapna Weddings. The best venue advice she has? “Do your due diligence ahead of time” says Chauhdry. “As opposed to visiting 15-20 halls, think about all the criteria that is important to you – capacity, food, price – list out what that criteria is and call up places that you’re interested in. You don’t need to go see 15-20 venues, you only need to go see 5.  It’s quite simple actually.”

What to Watch Out For

Knowing what you want, and of course knowing how to negotiate, can go a long way when it comes to finding a venue that works for you. Chaudhry warns, “When you’re looking for a venue, the number one thing you need to look out for is the audio-visual system. You book your venue, let’s say at $60 a head, and then you will be told that you have to contact whoever the in- house sound and lighting company is to get a separate quote for all your lighting, screens, projectors, separate from the venue. It’s a good thing in terms of quality, but it’s expensive, so the biggest thing you need to look out for is increased AV cost. You also have to look at the types or brands of alcohol you’re getting if that’s important to you. Then you have to talk about pricing for adults vs. children.”

The Bottom Line

Weddings aren’t cheap, and the venue, as the greatest expense of a wedding, is a key concern. However Chaudhry also urges people to take into consideration service quality, in addition to price, when choosing a venue. “I’m not saying you can’t do a wedding venue on a budget, you absolutely can, but to save a little bit of money, to sacrifice the service quality, it’s not worth it. When you book a venue you’re usually 8 months to a year and a half away, you don’t realise the impact. But once you get on the day, and your chair covers are dirty, and your floor plans aren’t right, that’s stressful, and it may be because you made a price-based decision.”
Of course, there are ways to help control costs; for example, having your reception(s) on a Friday or Sunday, will always be less expensive than a Saturday, or as Chaudhry says, “You can do without the giant centre pieces, the water bars, the massive stages! You can get all of those without spending a lot of money; you just need to know where to look.”

Desi Hall vs. Non Desi

And as someone who knows where to look, we asked Chaudhry, what are the differences, both good and bad, with going with a desi hall vs. a non desi? “Pros with an Indian wedding venue: generally you‘ll find the price point is lower; they will be more willing to negotiate; and in most cases they will provide Indian food, or will allow you to bring in desi food. The cons of an Indian venue: because the price point is lower, generally their service quality is lower. With a non-Indian venue, it’s the exact opposite, sometimes you can’t bring in Indian food, because they force you to use their own preferred suppliers and their price point is higher, but the pros are service is impeccable, generally, its more formal, you have a proper written detailed contract, with accountability” says Chaudhry.
At the end of the day, choosing your wedding venue, like any important decision, simply requires proper research and analysis. (Enter: charts, notes, and spreadsheets). And just think, once you have that venue booked, you get to focus on the real fun stuff: hair, makeup and bridal wear!

Non-Desi Venues that Allow Outside Catering:

Angus Glen Golf Club, Markham

  • Capacity: Great Hall: 400 guests; The Elgin Hall: 200 guests; The Marquee Tent: 250 guests; The MacKenzie Hall: 200 guests
  • Will allow outside catering, with a rental fee of $35 per person, plus tax

Paradise Banquet Hall, Concord

  • Capacity: Can accommodate up to 500 guests banquet style
  • Will allow outside catering, with a rental fee of $28 per person, plus tax

Mississauga Convention Centre, Mississauga

  • Capacity: Can accommodate over 2000 guests banquet style
  • Will allow outside catering with a rental fee of $29.50 per person, plus tax

Capitol Events Theatre, Toronto

  • Capacity: 250 banquet style.
  • Will allow outside catering with a rental fee of $2500, plus $20-80 per person

My wedding venues:

The mehndi,  Gambrel Barn, Milton:

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The shaadi, Paradise Banquet Hall, Vaughn:

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The valima, Mississauga Convention Centre, Mississauga:

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Unstitched Kapray with Kaam (Clothes with embellishment)

Hi guys!

I realized you can’t really talk about shopping for your wedding trosseau in Pakistan, without talking about buying unstitched kapray with completed kaam. When I was shopping in the PK last year, in addition to all of the readymade outfits that I got (which were the majority), I also got a few outfits from Liberty that were just unstitched kapra (cloth) but had all of the kaam (bewjewled work) already completed on it, so that you just had to take it to your tailor to have it stitched. I highly recommend this avenue to add ‘party’ outfits to your trosseau collection: you get to see all of the kaam already completed, the unstitched cloth is pretty reasonably priced, and as long as you have a good tailor you’re good to go! For example,  this is an outfit that I had made in that way, that I wore to a wedding this past weekend. When I bought it, I bought it as a package of pieces of cloth with the kaam on the gala (neckline), the sleeves, and the border pieces, and then the fabrics for the actual suit itself. The price? 10,000 RPS (about $100) and the cost of stiching (which was about $30, and that’s on the pricier side because I had this outfit sewn in Defense). By comparison, I think in Canada you wouldn’t pay less than $300 for an outfit like this from a hotel exhibition!

I’m curious to know, of all of the methods to shop for your bridal trosseau collection,  what route did you take?

-Safa

P.S. This hairstyle is my go-to function updo and it takes all of 15 minutes.  Shall blog about the steps soon!

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